Before the Covid pandemic brought it into such stark relief, the theme of care started emerging for me. I’d noticed that the purported split between caring for ourselves and caring for others didn’t always hold true. Caring for others in a retreat context always filled me with delight, circling back to nourish me. But let’s be honest, I have a super-relaxed husband and no children, so I've never really had to give of myself in the unconditional way you do as a parent. I started wondering whether my sense of caring was conditional, motivated by a wish to be liked, or to be seen to be kind. Our mind can play wonderfully heroic tricks on us!